Black and red, leather, latex and stainless steel. Mesh heels and stockings, collars, leashes and eye masks, fixing belts and handcuffs. And also corsets and bandages, leather harnesses and straps.

BDSM clothing is part of the game. She gives aesthetic pleasure with a provocative look and subordinates slaves to their masters. The “top” can demonstrate superiority over the “bottom”, including its clothing, makeup and accessories. 

Word to Lady Tabu: “Of course, it is not the clothes that make the dominant so. It can be discharged into the skin and latex from head to toe and not get the desired effect, or worse, look ridiculous. Someone is generally aroused not by clothes or sexy underwear, but by the bare feet of women in all their lovely defenselessness. The male top looks great in a tailored suit or well-fitting jeans that accentuate the firm buttocks. And for a dominatrix in the framework of home BDSM, a strict dress or peignoir will be more appropriate than a rubber catsuit. However, this is a matter of taste and individual preferences. “

BDSM techniques

In the BDSM session, methods of sensory influence and deprivation are used. Whipping, biting, clamps, wax and ice are sensual influences. Bondage, ropes, gag and mask are what restrict the partner’s movement, that is, deprivation. All this will help to diversify sex. For the first games, use the materials at hand, and when you get a taste, buy BDSM devices in a sex shop . Tanya Tabu advises the following techniques:

Fetishes

Try leggings, latex, or pantyhose ripping in interesting places. Wigs and makeup will change you beyond recognition. And I’ll tell you a secret, there’s no shame in dressing up your boy. The world of fetishes and BDSM is a field for co-creation, and let stereotypes and prejudices remain outside the bedroom doors.

Facesitting

This is sitting with the crotch on the face of a partner in clothes, lingerie or nude. There are no special tricks here. The main thing is to make sure that your partner has enough oxygen. While you are sitting on his face, do not forget about the “bonuses”. You can pinch and twist his nipples or slap your palm on his nipples and body. The main thing is not to overdo it. You don’t have to hurt very much. This should promote blood flow to the site of exposure, rather than bruising and bruising. The practice is suitable for girls who want to try themselves in a dominant role, but do not know how to handle devices.

Eye mask

This accessory is a classic for sharpening tactile sensations and giving birth to the effect of exciting suspense. You can also use a full face mask . This is another playful moment of partner depersonalization. So it is easier to deprive him of his usual appearance for the duration of the game and use it as a living doll for entertainment.

Ice and wax games

I recommend looking for special candles for BDSM and learning about safety during thermo games.

Immobilization

Do stockings, tights, a silk scarf, a robe belt, a leather belt, or a special bondage from a sex shop. No hard police handcuffs or synthetic household ropes. Be careful not to pinch veins and arteries. Tie knots so that you can undo them quickly if necessary.

When the “victim” is fixed, you can sweetly torture her with physical influences, sex toys and tease her visually. Dance, touch, hot breath in the ear. Or maybe sit down opposite and arrange a frank solo for your partner? Don’t be afraid to give free rein to your inner devils.

BDSM Session Scripts: What To Try?

Dominant and Submissive are the two main roles in a BDSM game scenario. “Top” is the one who dominates and orders. They call him lord, master or sir. The “lower” (submissive, slave) obeys and obeys. It defines the acceptable limits and indicates the stop light before the start of the game. This is a word or gesture that stops all actions of the master. For the first BDSM session, the following scenarios are suitable:

Surprise package. The gentleman places a package in front of the bedroom door. In it he puts the items and clothes necessary for the game, and a sheet with instructions for the submissive. The bottom takes the packet and prepares for the session. Only after that he enters the room where the master is waiting for him.

Interrogation. The master draws a card from the deck and shows it to the slave, so as not to see it himself. Now the slave owns information that is not known to the “top”. He punishes the “bottom” and “tortures” him to find out the truth.

PHOTOSESSION. The photographer makes an erotic photo of the model, indicating which positions to take. The model has no money to pay the photographer. Then he forces you to have sex with him.

Rogue. A bandit breaks into an apartment where an innocent maiden is engaged in household chores. He undresses, ties her up and takes her by force.

Power exchange. In the beginning, the woman dominates and punishes the man. Then he distracts her with a gentle kiss and seizes power. Now he is “top”.

Romantic dinner. The gentleman invites the submissive to the restaurant. Before dinner, he sets prohibitions, for example, not to talk to someone other than him. Then the “bottom” cannot even make an order to the waiter on its own. Only through the “top”. The master orders – go to the toilet and take off your underwear or use a sex toy. Keeping calm gives pleasure, because others notice that something is wrong with your couple, but they do not understand what.