Submission means the transfer of control authority to another. Therefore, the most important task that the partners need to solve among themselves is how much power the submissive can transfer to the dominant over himself and over the situation during the session. Just the degree of transfer of power in the topic is the defining essence of BDSM, and from this all further relationships flow.

Try at the beginning of the session when your woman is kneeling naked in front of you to ask her a simple question – “Why are you here?” Breaking the expected pattern is usually overwhelming, especially if this is not their first session and has previously started with some sort of pleasure-producing manipulation. This question is actually very important in order to highlight the key points in your future relationship. The answer of the slave, which should satisfy you, is something like “to serve you, my Lord.” If the submissive says so, or answers something similar in the same vein, then this suggests that he fully understands his true role in real thematic relations. He understands that it is not the Master that is needed to please the submissive, but the submissive in order to

In the event that a woman does not give a man the answer that he wants to hear from her, then most likely, before you start, you should clarify something for her. Since the wrong answer should alert you and cause thoughts that not everything in your proposed session plan will go the way you want. The question arises, will you ever achieve submission from this woman in sex and in a thematic session? An erroneous answer may indicate that your slave is cunning and selfish, she will try to manipulate you or play by her own rules. Do not be afraid of this – after all, BDSM involves the upbringing of obedient slaves. And your status as a person who does not succumb to arrogant subs will only strengthen your position in Dominance in the future.

In the event that you received the correct answer, you can continue the foreplay with another equally interesting question – “What does submission to a man mean for you?” This question also does not belong to the category of standard ones, so your lower partner, most likely, thinks for a long time about the correct answer to it. You can help him, and at the same time assert yourself in front of him. Say something like this:

“Your service to me should be based on four simple rules: obey my orders, serve me, take my control of you, bring pleasure to the master.”

Here is a clear living example of what is the subordination of a woman to a man

These dominance principles form the basis of any thematic session. Ask the submissive to repeat these rules out loud so that he understands and remembers them better, and ask him to confirm that he is ready to follow them.

This ritual can be the beginning of each session, setting partners in a thematic way.

Let’s look at these components of female sex submission to a man in more detail.

Executing Orders from the Dominant

The slave should be aware that a thematic session implies the execution of orders, even if not the most pleasant ones. And she needs to think in advance if she wants to follow the orders of this Dominant.

Knowing the submissive nature of many girls, we can confidently say that for every woman there is one or another degree of desire to be a submissive, to experience submission in sex and to value her relationship with a particular Dominant. This is just clearly noticeable when a slave girl receives an order to do something that she does not want to do at all. Unfortunately, practice shows that slaves are obedient only when they are ordered to do what they want. And this is manipulation with the Dominant. Ideal when both parties want the same thing. This is often the case in BDSM, because the set of games with the subordination of women to men is still limited.

In some ways, the moment when you are trying to force a slave to do “something bad” can be critical. A woman for whom this type of relationship is serious should at least try to obey the order or bend a little and receive the well-deserved punishment before she obeys the man. Make her do it! By the way, sometimes, in their zeal to please the Lord, the subs can go much further than they should and act at the peak of their capabilities. Therefore, we advise men to be restrained in giving orders, and women in carrying them out, especially if this is not a previously sounded order. There is no hurry here.

In the general sense of thematic relations, the Lord has the right to expect from a slave girl quick and unquestioning obedience, obedience and quick and error-free execution of various orders.

What if orders are not followed? In this case, you need to understand the situation. The point may be that the slave takes all this only as an ordinary game and does not want to submit seriously, or she may test you to show anger towards her, or she only wants the usual submission of a woman in sex, but not for the entire session. In the end, she may try to evoke the reactions she needs. You should understand what really drives her before going any further.

A slave who is ready to withstand pain, disgust, humiliation, fear and their combination of varying degrees of intensity and severity just for the sake of serving her master is a real find. Appreciate her!

We should also note that there are exceptions to any rule. Regarding the execution of orders, it is also there, perhaps even more than one, but at the moment we wanted to focus on such a variety of thematic session games in domination, such as games of captivity, enslavement, and also the prison theme. In such scenarios, the dominant takes his lower one as if captive and keeps it, as it were, against her will. Thus, in this case, the relationship is based precisely on resistance to the execution of the Master’s orders. This scenario for the development of the session is especially good for beginners who have not yet quite decided who he is in the topic and wants to try different approaches. And here already the Dominant man must choose the strategies of enslavement and submission of the obstinate slave woman.

In the section Rules of Conduct for a Slave, you can learn more about the set of conventions that a thematic session imposes on her behavior.

These sex submission games can be extremely exciting, emotional and interesting. We recommend you try it!