How to behave as a sub in BDSM London Mistress Subordination rules

We have already talked about how to behave as a beginner Dominant . But in the course of BDSM evolution, certain rules of obedience and behavior have developed for the opposite side – the lower ones. Let’s go over them briefly. This is certainly not a dogma, but for those who are just entering into a thematic relationship, it is advisable to read them more carefully and think about each point. If something does not suit you, discuss it with your partner in advance. You can also use this BDSM guide to educate your bottom.

1. The most important rule is not to read the Dominant tips we link to. They are not meant for you. If you decide that you are the bottom – completely different rules apply to you in this game and you play a different role in it. Of course, you can read them, as they say, for general development, but it will be a big mistake if, after reading the instructions for the Dominants, you take them for some axiom, infallible rules of behavior in relation to you and to the Topic and try to evaluate the actions of your Superior according to them while criticizing him for taking some side steps. Your purpose in the Topic is not to evaluate or criticize, but to be ready for what the Upper wants to do with you and take his control.

2. Know that no matter what recommendations and advice you read and receive on the forums from colleagues in hobbies in the BDSM topic, as in life, everything is individual. You can listen to advice, but at the same time develop your own model of behavior. Rather, the Dominant develops it for you. You obey his model. There should be no other rules of obedience and behavior for you than those established by your Dominant.

3. Trust your feelings and intuition. This is probably the only way to understand how submissive you are and how much you need the Lord.

4. Paradoxically, if you are a submissive, then your position in life should still be active. If in a relationship in the Upper you do not like or worried about something, talk about it openly with him, but not during the session. Ask questions and get answers. Otherwise, the situation is likely to worsen in the future, and you will be the main victim.

5. Do not avoid emerging problems – be open to dialogue. With Upper, as with a doctor, you must tell him the whole truth about what bothers you. Let go of shame and embarrassment. After all, you came to the topic, having already exacted them to some extent. If you conceal or keep silent about something, this, in the future, may turn out to be the central problem of your relationship.

6. Think about your psychological comfort. More on this in this article .

7. Develop your knowledge in those topics that are interesting to your Master, in order to be able to maintain a conversation and be interesting to him not only as a subject of sexual pleasures.

8. Don’t forget about your physical condition. If you don’t go to the gym, at least skip dinner after 18.00

9. Take care of yourself. You should have a neat appearance. For girls, make-up, manicure and pedicure, a well-groomed body are required.

10. Dress appropriately for meetings according to the style that your Master determines for you.

11. Do not be passive, take the initiative, be able to excite, deliver aesthetic, sexual and psychological pleasure, anticipate the desires of your Master.

12. Always remember to be respectful. Sometimes it helps to ask the most unpleasant questions in the forehead and soften those words that can hurt your partner’s feelings.

13. You must be useful to your Dominant. Such BDSM sessions, where the dominant constantly requires you to do something, is not at all necessary. You must anticipate his desires. This is one of the foundations of raising a good slave. One of the basic rules of classic BDSM Dominance is that you are for the Dominant, but he is not for you. The dominant is not obliged to please you or think about your pleasure – this is exclusively your prerogative. If he wants, he will deliver it to you, if not, then no, and you should not have any complaints against him. If you do not agree with this, then probably it’s time for you to camp for switches or even for Dominants, since you have not enough submissiveness.

14. Do not forget about the rules of decency and the rules of good taste in life – they will be more than useful to you in the game.

15. If you are a submissive to the core, it is not necessary to necessarily try to transfer your session games to D / s or lifestyle. Not all those who practice Top positions in BDSM games are capable of really “owning you” all the time. A significant part of the thematic community simply strives to diversify their sexual relations or realize sex fantasies . But if you find a real Dominant in life, you will quickly understand this.

16. Don’t rush things in your BDSM relationship. Move slowly through them, from simple to complex. Be patient. Get to know each other better – what each of you is capable of.

17. Be curious … Even if you decide on a thematic niche, you are still looking for something new for yourself and your partner.

18. Show loyalty to pain (in principle, any pain in a thematic relationship, with the exception of extreme practices, is really tolerable for the average person) – this is a certain degree of obedience that makes it clear that you obey not only words.

19. Be prepared for the fact that you will be completely guided – in stages and according to the points that are written in the head of the Upper, and for disobedience you will receive this or that punishment.

20. Master body language, often during the session you will be forbidden to speak or you will be gagged . You will find a practical guide to BDSM poses on the slave game page .

21. Your freedom is the freedom of action of your thematic partner.

22. Read also the following articles of the rules of submission and behavior of a slave during a BDSM session and a home sex slave in a D / s relationship

And the most important thing! Remember that the essence of classic D / s relationships is built more on the feelings that passion and desire lead to, and not on blindly performing some set of actions. A set of actions, rather the lot of B / d relationships. So don’t be afraid to show and follow these feelings. Most of what will be done by you based on your own feelings and sensations will be done absolutely naturally and beautifully and will be highly appreciated by your Dominant.