Humiliation in BDSM with dominance can include a fairly extensive number of different influences.

First, they are both physical and moral.

Secondly, both personal and interpersonal relationships and influences are considered.

For some of the submissives, this process in relation to them is a source of pleasure and excitement, for others it is a real test to which they are subjected only because their Master wants it. It happens that the lower ones write down certain practices of humiliation in their Taboos. Therefore, when your new bottom declares something like “I want to be humiliated” or vice versa “I do not want to be humiliated”, then you must answer with a counter question – “What does this mean in your understanding?”

The key point is that the level of derogatory suppression of the personality is determined by consciousness. In other words, it is difficult to lower a person by any action “below the plinth” if he does not consider such an action humiliating. In order to be humiliated, a slave must consider this (action) humiliating. For some subscribers, such topical practice is a pleasure and a source of excitement, for others it is an ordeal that they want or do not want (and therefore cannot) undergo.

Let’s take, for example, the rather common order “On your knees!” For some lower ones, kneeling is an expected, even welcomed act of submission. They have no problem obeying this order, and they often enjoy kneeling down. Other submissives find this “simple” action extremely demeaning. Someone considers wearing a collar demeaning, for others it is a privilege. There are many submissives who calmly endure trials that most others would find extremely discriminatory and even unacceptable, such as golden shower.

Moral abuse is often much more difficult than the pain of CM practitioners. It is believed that the key to humiliation in dominance is the consciousness of those participating in the session. Those. if any procedure or words are perceived pejoratively at the level of consciousness by both partners, then it is so. This is the psycho-emotional factor that must be taken into account. And in order to take it into account correctly, you need to very accurately determine the permissible and, at the same time, effective degree of such impact. At the same time, carefully observe the reaction of your partner, because the reactions of the body are always in sight, but the reactions of the mind are hidden to you. The psychology of humiliation and domination is such that they can be very difficult for submissives to accept,

What humiliations are

So what does it mean to humiliate someone? In the conventional sense, this means lowering the status of a person, usually in some generally accepted embarrassing or offensive way. For example, swear at him. It’s not that simple in BDSM. For example, calling your girlfriend a bitch and slapping her ass, you are unlikely to offend her, rather you will warm up sexual desire. It will be “sweet shame” for her – so use it without fear. Some of the most common acts that can be considered demeaning are

  • slaps,
  • spitting,
  • enema,
  • ejaculation on the face or body (although controversial, a common sexual practice)
  • being forced to lick your own ejaculate,
  • play the role of an animal or a child,
  • publicly wear a costume or paraphernalia that could betray a subordinate or humiliated person’s status,

Boss foot fetish (and in shoes).

There are enough options. The easiest and easiest to learn are the special poses taken by the slave during the session. You can get acquainted with them on the page naked slaves . Also, even an ordinary bondage game can become basic humiliation .

The degree of suppression of the personality can be strongly influenced by the circumstances under which the process takes place. For example, let’s consider an order as harmless as “On your knees!” In the classic BDSM relationship, a real slave girl is likely to be delighted with such an order. However, she will definitely be humiliated if you give such an order in some vanilla society and will force her to carry it out. Thus, this can be extremely painful emotional shock for her, which can lead to negative reactions and even aggression.

In general, there is a certain potential for cruelty that each individual person can endure, after which he can begin to defend himself, and the reaction can be extremely unexpected. It was noted in the Thematic Community that if a person is not just submissive, but thirsts for humiliation, then it makes sense, before proceeding to the session, to more carefully stipulate some details regarding specific procedures for achieving such a state, so that later both parties will not be disappointed.

The number of people who can be participants in the session and the degree of their closeness to partners also plays one of the key components of this impact. A good slave can lick the legs of his Mistress alone with lust and without any coercion, but, for example, at a BDSM party, he will no longer be so accommodating and agreeable, i.e. such a procedure will surely confuse the majority. For the Dominant, this means that you can regulate the degree of humiliation by one practice, which is, in principle, pleasant for both of you, only by increasing and decreasing the number of viewers.

A good option would be to use toys such as anal dildos and plugs – when using them, the lower one will be rendered in a rather humiliating state.

In addition to actions, there are also verbal humiliations, i.e. in the form of words addressed to the submissive. Despite the fact that from the outside, for example, after the order to kneel, this may seem a very insignificant effect, but you should also be careful with it and stipulate earlier words with which you will reward your lower partner. Expressions that you said in the heat of the session regarding nationality, religious affiliation, physical attractiveness, sexual orientation, any imperfections in the face, body, mental abilities can lead you further than you and your partner would like.

For example, many women are not sure about the attractiveness of their breasts, and men are not sure about the attractiveness of their breasts, so the topic you have touched on and painful for them can completely unsettle them. On the other hand, some people find such verbal abuse extremely arousing.

If the lower one wants to expand its boundaries of perception of various humiliations, then the Upper one needs to encourage this initiative and show his satisfaction with the behavior of the lower one. If the bottom does not accept a BDSM session with this approach, you should not force him.

Ways of humiliation and coercion in BDSM

We have compiled some of the humiliation techniques in one file that you can download . Of course, they are not some kind of dogma for a particular couple. Moreover, some things may seem strange or completely unacceptable to you. This is fine. You can choose what you like, change them as you see fit. The main rule – to resort to such practices as humiliation in BDSM, follows after the establishment of mutual understanding in the pair, the boundaries of acceptability and the development of the rules of the game. The BDSM contract will help you with this.